When we are baby’s our parents want us to talk, they want us to tell them what we want. As we get older, they say. “Use your words.”

You would think that all that ‘training’ and ‘molding’ would make everything easier. Why is it then, that when you get to a point in your life you feel like ‘using your words’ would do more harm than good? I am a talker..duh! Sometimes though, I get to a point to where I feel like my words aren’t going to help. Yeah we can all say that communication is one of the most important things in any realtionship, be it friends, lovers, family or work. Communicate how you feel, tell us what you want, tell me what makes you happy….blah blah blah. I think that communication is helpful, yes, but I have wondered if it isn’t harmful too? I hear from people all the time, just say what you feel, that will always make things better. No…I don’t think so. I think that sometimes keeping it in is a good thing…then again, I wonder am I keeping in the right stuff and letting the right stuff out?

So, let me touch on a ‘touchy’ communication issue. This is just an example!!

Say there is someone you care about. You have for a while, but because of your relationship status with each other, you are scared to tell him/her how you really feel. Several factors come into play here. You hear things from people close to him/her that tell you that they aren’t what you think they are or that they are not what you really need/want because they are this way or that way. Do you take this into condsideration? So you ask him/her about it? Do you leave it alone?

What if you talk to him/her and you almost bare your soul to them and then pull back at the last second, because they just didn’t seem to want to hear you? Do you just continue on and hope they listen, or do you walk away and hold it all inside?

So, these are all issues you can run into. What does a person do? You can talk to them and they could either love you for it, or hate you, right? You can walk away and not say a thing and pass up the greatest oppurtunity of a lifetime. I guess we all have to judge what we want to say, and who we want to say it to. We all have to decide which path we will walk down. Be it at home, work, or with the one you love.

It’s a tough world we live in, and we can either make it easier or harder on oursleves. It just depends on what route you are willing to take. We can all take the easy way out, or we could suffer the trials and tribulations of life and go the hard way. I think that the hard way was put in front of me, and I challenged myself. I think that I will learn from it, and be able to grow from the experiences placed in front of me.

Thank you for letting me share!!

Hugs and Kisses,

Kitty